Why, Long Distance Relationship breaks?
real facts
I connect with many people to understand their relationship issues. There are some common points I found in all the cases about Long Distance Relationships when your partner stops responding to you.
In maximum cases, long distance relationship doesn’t work. And the reason is simple, the time you spent with someone makes your relationship with that person stronger. Your physical presence makes a psychological effect on the other person. And this is what is absent in LDR.
Communication Media: communication through SMS, or chat messages is an incomplete lengthy communication. People need to pay extra attention in typing a message and many of us avoid this. Messages can’t express our facial expressions even if we use the right emojis. There is a high chance of misunderstanding. Sometimes we understand things quite late or repeatedly ask questions to understand a statement that makes our partner furious. We do typos, and jokes turn into statements. Many times, our partner doesn’t want to speak but he/she just needs to hold our hand which is not possible through messages.
Routine talks are boring. Asking every day the same questions like “did you have the meal?”, “how was the day?”, “how is your study/office going on?” makes the conversation boring. People want to avoid answering the same question again and again. This happens when we want to talk but we have no words. So we fill the silence with unnecessary questions which may make the other person irritated.
Busyness: When you’re not busy, you always want someone to talk to you, especially your partner. As per Murphy’s law, when you wait for something, time crawls. And someone is blamed for not giving sufficient time, unnecessarily.
Reservation of time. When you’re with them, they can talk to you anytime like when they’re having food, or getting ready for office/college. But in LDR, they need a specific time to talk to only you when no friend is around, he/she is not having food, or not taking any classes, or when no one is hearing your talk. But if he/she doesn’t get the chance or if they’re really busy, they avoid talking.
Eventually, our expectations or emptiness in the life increases with time. But his/her interest, availability, or the charm decreases.